How do I keep my mind off ?

Some people here simply cannot appreciate the importance and value of vows. That is so sad...You had taken the steps that I would recommend: cles, college and more but to no avail. I think that you must be a young lady and your body craves for what is missing. If you cannot mentally block it, it is a phase that will go away once it stops working in your sub conscience. Rely a lot on the positive side of your marriage and from there pull the strength necessary to fight the fleshy desires.